Have I turned gay or just disgusted with my marriage?

Sounds like you have had enough. Have you told her all of this? Do you still love her? She sounds like a...piece of work. Marriage needs work on both parts and she is not participating. I wouldn't forsake all other women just yet. Have you considered divorce? My husband and I are both involved with our careers, have two children, and have no problem splitting housework/cooking/yard work. Everything gets done and we have an active sex life. It can be done, but you have to want to. To me it seems she just is not interested in your happiness and is only concerned with herself. I would suggest just stop doing everything to maybe give her a push into helpfulness, but most likely your house will just become a pig pen. I hope you can work this all out. Any man who does all this work deserves an A in my book (except for the cheating bit). Good luck!